You'll learn a game plan for navigating any social situation, unique ways to break away from the same old small talk, how to speed-read faces to predict people's emotions, and much more besides.
When you understand the laws of human behaviour you can get along with anyone. With Vanessa's help, you will never interact in the same way again. Includes a bonus PDF of quizzes, graphs and illustrations. Languages English. Penguin presents the unabridged, downloadable audiobook edition of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People written and read by Vanessa Van Edwards.
Why is availability limited? Sign in Cancel. Part III is about the first five days. In order to get to know someone on a deeper level, you have to learn how to influence people, lead teams, and increase your impact with everyone you meet. This is the ultimate level of connection and the final and most advanced step for interacting with people. You can also keep your eyes peeled for Fast Facts, where we pulled in data from our Twitter polls and online surveys that are relevant to the content.
Get all of the resources at www. Developing your PQ—or interpersonal intelligence—is like adding a catalyst to your success. By the end of the book you will be able to engage anyone you meet in memorable conversation.
You will know how to leave a lasting first impression with clients, colleagues, and friends. And you will have more confidence, control, and charisma in all of your interactions. Individuals with strong interpersonal communication report being 42 percent happier and more fulfilled with their lives.
I joke that people skills are the social lubricant of life. When you understand the laws of human behavior, everything goes more smoothly: Professionally, you will know how to negotiate a raise, connect with colleagues, build rapport at networking events, and nail your elevator pitch.
Romantically, you will impress your dates, deepen your relationships, flirt authentically, and prevent partner miscommunications. Bottom line: There is a science to winning friends and influencing people, and learning it will completely change the way you interact. Let the adventure begin! This quiz will help you assess your current level of interpersonal intelligence.
The good news is our PQ can be improved, stretched, and hacked. No matter where you are now, each hack you learn in this book will help get your PQ up. We will take this test again at the end of the book, and my goal is to help you level up your score by at least fifty points.
The PQ Test 1. Which smile is real? Where is the best place to stand at a networking event? Near the entrance to the event B. At the food table so you can sit with people C. Where people exit the bar D. Next to someone you know 3.
What does this face mean? Amused B. Sad C. Bored D. Contemptuous 4. Which saying about people is most true? How much of our personality comes from our genes?
Very little. Our personality is mostly formed by how we are raised. A lot. Our personality is mostly formed by our genetics and DNA. The best way to show someone you care about them is to: A. Tell them all the reasons they are awesome B. Get them a gift C.
Do their to-do list for them D. All of the above E. Which phrase corresponds best with this facial expression? It smells weird in here. This makes me angry. Which emoticon would best represent this face? If this man walked into your office, what would you guess about him? Hint: Only one of these personality assessments is correct.
He is an introvert. He is an extrovert. He is laid-back. He is quiet. Our brains are most active when we are chatting about: A. Our crush B. The latest juicy gossip C. Ourselves D. The latest thriller Excitement B. Giddiness C. Interest D. Surprise In the average conversation, people typically hold eye contact what percent of the time in a conversation?
The best way to get someone on the same page as you is to: A. Tell them a story B. Pay them a compliment C. Make them laugh D. Say something surprising Surprise B.
Hatred C. Fear D. Confusion Which of these habits tends to annoy people the most? People who are too talkative B. People who are too quiet C.
People who are fake D. People who show off Their friends have also bought B. A doctor recommends C. Matches their personality D. They customized How extroverted they are B.
How much they worry C. If they are open to new ideas D. Their IQ E. How organized they are The easiest way to know if your new colleague is neurotic is if they: A. Put up inspirational posters B.
Show up early to every meeting on the first day C. Introduce themselves to you immediately D. Wait for you to introduce yourself Embarrassment B. Irritation D. Disgust Flattered B. Attractive C. Valued D. Powerful Answer Key: Whew!
Go through and give yourself 0 points for every wrong answer and 10 points for every right answer: 1. By the end of the book, we will blow it out of the water. In fact, this is the range for most people.
But you and I both know you are not average. You already have good interpersonal intelligence, but good is never enough. Did some of these answers surprise you? They should! We have not learned many of the fundamental forces that drive human behavior. Who should I talk to? What should I say? Part I is all about the first five minutes of an interaction. How can you use your first impression, conversation starters, and introduction to get to know someone?
The first five hacks are all about tapping into what intrigues people so you can be the most memorable person in the room. When the time came to apply to college, he took jobs as a timekeeper in a railroad construction company and as a shelf duster in a pharmacy to support his family. No one would have guessed that this shy boy would one day become the thirty-third president of the United States. The story of Harry S. On July 19, , this posed a problem.
Truman was facing the biggest opportunity of his career. He was vying for the vice presidential nomination at the Democratic National Convention. The odds were not in his favor. Then-president Franklin D. Roosevelt had already publicly supported his contender, Henry Wallace, a gifted public speaker and the current vice president. Truman was not a gifted public speaker—and he knew it. All day, they pulled delegates into a private, air-conditioned room underneath the platform, called Room H.
Then he spent hours standing at the end of the hallway, shaking hands with passing members. Instead of waiting for the results in his hotel room which is what Henry Wallace and most of the candidates tended to do , Truman ordered a hot dog and sat with his wife in the audience.
In the first ballot, Wallace had A second ballot was called immediately. Truman had to win friends and he had to win them fast. Instead of making a grand speech, Truman and his team kicked into full gear, working party leaders, delegates, and influential members of the crowd one by one. He worked a solid connection with the right person and then let them convince their people for him. At p.
He gained votes in a matter of hours. A few minutes later, Truman gave one of the shortest acceptance speeches in history. He optimized his interactions for success, and so can you. You also happen to be six feet two inches tall. You have two choices: You could play center, but the average height of an NBA center is six feet eleven inches. Or you could play point guard, where the average height is six feet two inches. Feigning extroversion is like trying to play center with lifts on.
It also comes across as inauthentic. In a Science of People survey, we asked 1, of our readers the following question:4 Which of these people habits annoy you the most? If you are unhappy at an event, people will sense it. Barbara Wild and her associates found that our emotions are infectious. First, her team showed people pictures of happy or sad faces.
Then they gave them a series of mood tests. Very simply, after viewing a happy face, participants felt more positive. After viewing a sad face, participants felt more negative. Only milliseconds is barely enough time for participants to even register they had seen a face, and they still caught the emotion. Wild even found that our smile muscles unconsciously tend to mimic the smiles around us.
We are happier around happy individuals, and we thrive with thriving people. Think you can just fake it until you make it? Think again! We can spot a fake smile a mile away. Over 4, people have taken our virtual Body Language Quiz to test their nonverbal intelligence. In one question we show participants a genuine smile hidden among three fake smiles. Over Researchers at the University of Finland showed one group images of fake smiles and another group images of real smiles.
Image A shows a fake smile, and Image B shows a genuine smile. When participants looked at the real smiles, they felt a positive mood change. But when participants looked at the fake smiles, their mood remained the same. For more on how you can tell the difference, turn to Chapter 6. Faking it until you make it is not worth the effort. Happy people make us happy,8 but fake happy people—they are forgettable. The first step in winning the social game is to control the situations you play in.
No matter how many behavior hacks you learn, if you go to events that make you unhappy, it will be incredibly difficult to increase your memorability.
When you feel great, other people pick up on it and want in on it. And you smell up the event. This is why you need to have a Social Game Plan.
Confidence is contagious and so is lack of confidence, and a customer will recognize both. Say yes to networking events, coffees with strangers, and random conferences, because you never know what opportunity might come your way. As the science shows, this is a big smelly sack of baloney.
Unfortunately, it took me years to figure this out. When I first started my blog, I was trying to find any paid writing gig I possibly could. So almost every weeknight, I trudged out to the professional circuit.
I prepared for these networking events like I was going into battle, loading up on fat stacks of business cards, fistfuls of no-nonsense pens, and multiple personalized name tags. My uniform consisted of sensible shoes, casual professional attire, perfume, and a news anchor smile. I fought. For attention, for business, for a break from the interminable boredom of having the same conversation over and over again.
After three years of this nonsense and at least ten pounds from eating so many platters of pigs in a blanket , I threw in the towel. Like Truman, I do much better in one-on-one situations. I get overwhelmed by loud rooms with lots of people. What I needed was a game plan. Not me! I want you to create your own. Skill 1: Play Your Position Most people skills books try to force you into one approach—the bubbly extrovert.
They want you to fake it until you make it. This is impossible. Play to your position. Before seeing the results, fill out your answers below. Check off all the places where you greatly ENJOY spending time with other people—and feel free to fill in your own at the bottom.
Trick question! These are the places you look forward to going to and where you are your best self. Survive: Other places or scenarios always make you feel uncomfortable, bored, or unhappy.
Put yourself in a position to be successful before you even arrive. You are much more likely to triumph with each of the behavior hacks if you try them at your thrive locations. And if you have to go to a neutral or survive event, no worries—the next two skills have you covered.
Skill 2: Work a Room Before you go to an event, imagine drawing your social interactions on a map, from the door you enter through to the location of your first conversation to the location of your last. Many of us follow the same paths over and over again without even realizing it. At each event, we assign every attendee a number and then observe his or her interaction patterns. At the end of the night, we count how many connections they made, ask them how many business cards they received, and look at their connections on LinkedIn.
We have found that the most successful connectors use specific patterns. In other words, this social map can be hacked. There is a check-in area or a table to drop off gifts. When you understand the laws of human behavior, your influence, impact, and income will increase significantly. Leave a Comment Cancel reply. Go to mobile version. Just like knowing the formulas to use in a chemistry lab, or the right programming language to build an app, Captivate provides simple ways to solve people problems.
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